Loss cannot be forgotten however grief IS a wound that can be healed

As many British families nurse the trauma of lost loved ones in Tunisia something our service families continually face….one lady is claiming that grief can be healed more speedily.

 “Grief for the dead is a wound that never heals. But it’s a pain that proves we are human”

Lingering grief is like a slow death, it robs people of living an inspired life, something their loved ones would have wanted, instead of painful emotions. People who face major loss such as losing a loved one in a traumatic event or in armed conflict often end up burying their emotions and never really dealing with them.

Often we hear grief stories a decade on such as  ‘A Song for Jenny’ recently shown on TV bearing witness to Julie Nicholson’s loss of her daughter in the 7/7 bombings

How much improved lives will be if we can teach people how to dissolve the emotion of grief

 We often hear people say that the pain never goes away, and that it’s like the tragic situation has only just happened

For some the grieving continues long after the loss and can last a lifetime 

I know from firsthand experience what it is to suffer grief and to have that loss completely shape your life. When I was nine years old my twin sisters aged 11 tragically died 

Fast forward four decades of repeated loss because I never dissolved the grief, I believe the experience I have had and from the fairly recent research I have done I understand how to dissolve grief

Buried grief, buries you! It can cause significant problems for people including loss of relationships, loss of businesses, financial loss and physical illness! 

There is a five step process to dissolving grief:

  

·                     Identify the specific traits you loved in the person, instead of a generalization

·                     Recognise who and where these traits are now appearing in your life

·                     Look for traits you disliked about the person, as difficult as that may seem

·                     Balancing out of the traits

·                     Be open to connecting spiritually with your loved one 

I experienced how grief is a choice and it can be overcome far more quickly than is ever believed 

 People can let go of the grief and live inspired and fulfilling lives, it doesn’t mean their loss never happened, it means they can remember them with fondly without the emotional pain 

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