Grief - Excuses Begone!

I am really pleased to get inspired today to talk about grief. A friend has recently lost his wife after 30 happy years together and yes it is a big loss, one which was seen coming as she battled through breast cancer. Of course the journey will have been long, challenging and painful and now the final loss. I have offered support as best I know how with the use of the Demartini Method, long before the passing.

The truth is that our culture and belief system here in the UK and probably much of the Western world honors grief like almost life a trophy.

The depth of grief can be perceived as signifying the depth of love you have for someone and this could not be further from the truth. I do not question that you ‘love’ the one you have lost however when you are in the state of perceiving grief you are not allowing your mind to balance out the emotion, the one which is causing you a lot of pain. I’ll talk about this balancing in a moment.

I just want to say too, that often those around such as family and friends can through their misperceptions keep grievers stuck in grief. Some prefer to hide behind these excuses and are simply not prepared to give something new a try. I understand, especially when one is in grief, maybe I am different, I know what my own grief was like and I would have jumped at the chance. I didn’t have that luxury back in 1972.

On average it is recognized in the medical profession that it can take one to two years for the average person to overcome loss of a partner. The reality is that under current circumstances with no realistic intervention, it takes some longer and for others they never get over it.

I would like to help in changing that, as it is a truly devastating for not only for the individual but also for their families, robbing them of joy and life unnecessarily.

Coming back to the balancing out of perceptions, this is very real and successful for those open to allowing their set beliefs and religious views to be adjusted with a new experience. After all there is more to lose and everything to gain by giving it a try.

When the balancing is undertaken, using a questioning technique that seeks out memories, there reaches a point in which the griever has a ‘aha’ moment of truth, one which can be extremely awakening to the mind and they can experience ‘love’ for the person.

It truly is something to be experienced, in a few hours one can transfer emotions from extreme agony and pain to feelings of being at peace, feeling love, honoring their loved one, feeling close to their loved one. If there is any bitterness or anger etc. this departs leaving the griever in a more energized state and inspired for life.

I wrote ‘Breaking Through Loss’ http://amzn.to/1p8i2Pe to lead people to this realization that no-one has to suffer grief. You can read that as a start, or you can respond to my google+ if you have a queries or wish to contact me.