Thank You for being there!

What can I say ?

If it wasn't for you I would not be here! I WILL persevere this challenge of overcoming technology just so I CAN speak to you...I envisage making it plain sailing and loving our chats !

I'm there now! Enjoying the moments of drifting with you and feeling the calm waters.

Mmmmmm..breathe deeply......................breathe deeply for 5 seconds and breathe out for 5 seconds.........does that FEEL good?

Yes  - Yes it does!

Well....when you are feeling like no-one else is listening .........................I am listening to you!

I WILL be here for you

I want to HEAR your voice telling me how it is...


NO going away...I am here. x


Lynn smiling now xx

Real Grief remembered

Yes...I remember all too well how grief is desperately cruel. We had to have our beautiful Pet put down. she was the cutest and dearest little spirit. We loved her very much.
She had little dog syndrome....a vet once declared her as having an anxiety disorder, it was always a problem taking her for a walk. She was very aggressive, I always would say, if she had to pass the RSPCA test, they would put her down, yet in the home she was delicate , very loving and so tactile.

Yes...of the things we loved, there were things we hated too, and being a facilitator of the Demartini Method I know all too well that if I use the technique I can dissolve the grief, yet somehow it seemed a betrayal to my lovely lovely Pet. I am grateful to her for showing me what others must feel like when their grief is fresh!

The Vet who injected her was really kind, she allowed the dog to go sleepy and she put her head down and we cuddled her, she was blissfully quiet, it was one of those moments in your life that you truly appreciate what you have had, not because she was gone but because she was a spirit of unconditional love and she loved us as much as we loved her, and we knew that she would continue to love us, because love never dies.

I felt her with me for a while, in the car, everywhere I turned, she had an annoying habit of following me everywhere and getting under my feet, I missed the annoyance, but then not really because I was annoyed there was no annoyance. Crazy but true. I felt that I could sense her watching me and later when I went to bed, I woke up in the middle of the night, I could feel her underneath the bed - how could that be?

She remained near me for a few days and then she left....she isn't far though I know she is happy and she knows we loved her.

I did use the Demartini Method and I must admit it helped me considerably, I haven't been crying, I have felt love for her and can talk about her without crying.

It just goes to show how conditioned we are to grief! Instead I appreciate my dog for the part she has played in my life and I appreciate her for all parts of her, and I know she was meant to stay for only this short time, and I know just how much she loves me. I feel blessed which is a good place to be after you lose a Pet. 

Please contact me if you are having any sadness or grief over your Pets, I can share what might help with you.

Other's just don't understand!

Yes, tell me about it! It always seemed odd for a Doctor or Counsellor to give advice when they hadn't been there themselves . I'm sure I am not the only one with that view.

First off when my sisters died at the age of nine - no-one really spoke to me, they just assumed that as a child, you 'play' and then time and nature will do its bit. I thought that too! How wrong could I be.

In a way I am grateful that they left me alone - I guess I learnt to be alone and with it I have learnt some of the most beautiful things about life and human nature and the drivers, and the balance between money and true heart.

I think people are different, everyone's has different feelings - you CANNOT make any assumptions about anyone and pleeeeeese don't  - lol!

As you can tell I don't like it when people assume they know how I feel, and I like it even less when they try tell me to 'buck up'! And I like even more less when they NOW begin telling me that if I think negative then I bring it all on myself!! Choose your attitude  - well I can tell from that response that you have no idea of the impact the feelings of grief have, but I do appreciate that your are trying to help.

The world does now seem to be full of people who know everything about everything. Myself I wouldn't claim anything that bold. I just know about grief and loss and how to escape it and help others to do that too!

I say thank heaven for my blog! Yes its is MY blog and I feel free to say what I want without having to justify myself, that feels good.
I just want to be me, beautiful me, who get's it wrong, screws up, and that is OKAY. My book Breaking Through Loss writes about all the mistakes I have made and the numerous losses I have experienced, it lays me open for ridicule and criticism which I am prepared to weather if it means I can help a fellow soul who is lost. That might be YOU! If not now, at some point in your life.

 You see, of all the teachings, the one instilled in me by family and church was to treat others as you wish to be treated, and I learnt at the age of nine that being lost, left  alone, hurt, that whilst I could handle my emotions in the best ways I knew, I couldn't live with the feelings. It was not right that anyone should be left after such traumas to be on their own, that is not what God wants.

Yet sadly little is done by our fellow humans to help, in fact more often than not we are ignored because others don't like to feel they are not happy, doing what they love, they don't have time to listen to 'sad' people. Of course it is different if you have a support group, or your work pays for counselling, but how many actually use it, or will admit they feel really bad ?

My eyes were opened to how grief could be pretty quickly healed back in 2010. So if you are one who is ready to heal the wounds then please contact me or link to my Fb page
https://www.facebook.com/InspiredLifeAfterDeath and hit the like button, leave a comment :)

Latest update on 'Breaking Through Loss'

I have sent the book to ARSSE, the Army Rumour Service in United Kingdom for review, this should take a 2-3 weeks and then the book will be advertised on the site which is there to support service personnel. I used to be in the Territorial Army - yes! It's a while back now, but I loved it, and I have enormous respect for the men and women who are prepared to sacrifice their lives to protect others. I really hope that my book will help any who have sufferred loss in some form.
Families who have lost their children, husbands, wives or service men who have lost limbs and now face adjusting their expectations to live with their new form.
No question that these people are on high spiritual journeys, I would like to think that I can share some of that journey with them on a deep level of understanding of what it is like to experience trauma and find yourself lost in a world where no-one appears to understand you.
Feeling that the voice inside is going crazy and there simply are no words to explain the turmoil of emotion.
Yeeee ha! I look forward to that review and feedback and I will continue to explore other avenues for the book and speaking opportunities.
Personally I think some of my fellow comrades think that I should be out at every business meet-up selling my book and speaking.
Yet I think you know and I know too that 'loss' just ain't like that! You don't just step out and shout hey - look at me - I've written a book on loss! Ooops....
No..this is not just any book, it has a life of its own, its not about me, nor my story really , although it is a story that gets told. There are many players to the story, and many souls are entwined within the matrix to bring the whole together.
I cannot take praise for my part...only accept with humbleness that I am one of the lucky ones! Yes I got the opportunity to try again at a new life for myself. I feel blessed and honoured in that way, almost like a drew the lucky straw !
I certainly feel that is my misson to help others through their struggles and to allow them to see the beauty of their lives and what they mean.
I know there are some outstanding people out there, who have overcome far greater adversity and are worthy of everything they stand for  - great I say and I admire those who tell me 'Yes I lost my brother, I'm over the grief - life goes on and you have to make the most of it'
To them I say 'Good for you'! 'Whoopee Do!'
My service is for the ones who cannot see that, for the ones who suffer emotionally.
I know the strength it takes to pull through that, I know the courage it takes to pull through that,I know the tears , I know the prayers, I know the soul searching that I have done.  y job is to hold your hand and let you know that God through me is here to help you!
I in service doing what God wants.
This week I am meeting an Executive from a Charity for ex-service men here in Australia.
Hey fingers crossed it leads to something positive for me, I am counting on you people to help me through my transformation...more about that in my next posts....looking forward to chatting again with you, without you  - I am not me . Big Grin   Signing out Lynn
http://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Through-Loss-Powerful-Scientific/dp/1452507929

Whilst loss is never forgotten................

........It is possible to live life to the full when suffering from a loss ?

For those experiencing loss and grief as a fresh set of emotions it truly hard to imagine that you could live life fully without feeling the pain and despair that can surround grief.

My own experience was like a sledgehammer hitting my brain with a force, and the pain screamed through the whole of my being..never did I believe like I do now that it is possible to overcome it.

I would have called you cruel, inconsiderate,even 'evil' if you tried to tell me such a thing! How dare you invade my privacy , my sadness, my loss and give your opinion!!

Mmmmm.so what makes me believe that I can talk to you now and even claim that I can help you?

Well I have just come home from spending a weekend as a Facilitator at a Breakthrough Experience by Dr J F Demartini in Brisbane and 150 people witnessed him dissolve the grief of a Grandmother whose daughter had lost her baby.

It is so true that grief can dissappear once the perceptions of the human mind are brought into full awareness.... and the book Breaking Through Loss explains it.

I was fortunate to be asked to speak about the book from the stage - a heartfelt moment in my life as my dreams of helping others on a bigger scale comes nearer to the truth.

Did you know that unresolved grief will repeat ?

So what is unresolved grief? +Grief Encounter +Grief Healing +National Alliance for Grieving Children ,+Grieving Widows +grieving parent +Loss and grief. Happiness and relief. 

Well its the old British 'stiff upper lip'! We are trained to out a brave face on our emotions and in fact many religions request that we do the same. The idea is that we do not burden anyone with our problems and we always honour those that show 'strength' of character in situations of adversity.

Yes ...look at the Army...we award 'Bravery', those acts of shere heroism in the face of the horror when presented with the potential of death and when soldiers can look beyond their fallen comrades to battle on and win the war! +Veterans United

I certainly do not advocate that bravery is not to be rewarded, indeed some of the finest examples come from situation such as these and only yesterday on facebook I read a beautiful story of a helicopter hero who kept going back in to save the men injured and on the ground, even when the medics had been told to get out and leave them.

The point I want to make is that the pressure from religion, culture, family and social values creates a situation where it can be hard to admit your feelings of grief, to share the burden of the loss you feel. Many beleive that it should be a personal thing , dealt with inside of the family unit, but hey, how often does that work well ?

Of course loss and grief is ugly...who wants be dpressed by another's woes ? Afterall we live in a society that wants to be happy ? We are being driven to affirmations and positive thinking, we NEED to change our mindsets, as if something is wrong with us for feeling blue!

Well my 40 years of keeping quiet about the loss of my twin sisters as done me no good whatsoever and has created a lot of situations in my life that led to failed marriages, a lack of appreciation for my family, excessive drinking and some delinquent behaviour, not to mention numerous career issues!

Unresolved grief shows up again anD AGAIN!  If you have had the feeling that the emotions are REPEATING, then I have the solution for you!

I have finally found what can help - its a scientific method and it works pretty quickly. It will work on folk who have had longterm problems and it works really well on fresh loss too!

On the onehand I would say ...what do you have to lose ? And on the otherhand I would say...You WILL LOSE if you don;t stop to find out. I have 100% certainty of what will happen to you because it happened to me repeatedly.

You can read about it in my book called Breaking Through Loss - just visit www.breakingthroughloss.com and you will find links to purchase it pretty cheaply I might say

If YOU or anyone you love need support I can coach you to acheive amazing results, maybe puchase the book for them to read ?

Stay tuned to this blog becasue I am now 100 percent dedicated to helping people through loss. My mission is to dissolve the painful emotions and guide people to great success in their lives.

Miracles  really do happen!!

Love to you

Enjoy your Day!

Lynn

Is it true that grief is experienced by people who have a'victim' mentality ?

I couldn't believe my ears when I heard this from someone who works in HR, for a moment I was suspended sky high on a pendulum! Then I threw my head back and laughed! Yes the Universe loves to tease us and the Gods were having fun with me...............

I know better than this. I was not going to waste my time on such a judgmental view.Clearly they had never experienced grief and that's fine, I just wouldn't like to be someone sufferring grief and seeking out that person's sympathy.

I would love to hear your views on this. Personally I would not have welcomed this view when I experienced the loss not of one sister, but of two at the tender age of nine! I cannot for one minute imagine that there are people out there who would dismiss the trauma...but sad to say there are, and there are too many of them.

I never played victim, I quietly got on with my activities, I didn't even want to show my tears at the funeral. I buried my grief because I didn't know what else to do, I did not know of any other alternative. Back in the sixties most people didn't know any different, and 'putting on the brave face' was the normal thing, after all our Great Grandfathers had either died or survived the War and many had lost loved ones.....so it wasn't talked about.

After several decades of repeated misfortunes I would've held my hand up and said that I 'felt' like a victim of repeated losses, I would have been right and I would have been none the wiser as to why this kept repeating for me.

Fortunately for me I encountered a very ground breaking view to loss, one which I witnessed one weekend back in March 2010, one which totally changed my life...

I can't wait to tell you more about it...or you could read about it in my book called 'Breaking Through Loss'  if you goto www.breakingthroughloss.com you can actually register and receive the first three chapters for free.

We can catch up soon, I'd love to hear what your views are about loss and grief, and what would you have to say to this person who thinks that you either master upto grief or you dive into a victimhood ?

Please keep comments polite and respectful.

Happy Birthday to my post!

I have to thank my friend Mark Carrington for the suggestion that I begin blogging.I reckon as a Management Consultant and CEO he has awesome knowledge and experience. He wrote book called : The Banking Revolution- Salvation or Slaughter 1997, so he must know what he is talking about. Here I give one of my cheeky winks.

My personal mission on Earth is to help people through their emotional suffering and bring them to the understanding that there are ways and methods to quickly get folk back on track and living an enjoyable and fulfilling life.

I have chosen somewhat subconsciously for most of my life, to repeat cycles of loss and grief, it is only recently well 3 years ago, that I actually awakened to my true mission in life.

This blog is my first on the topic of loss and grief, its not going to be a traditional blog, its not about giving buckets of sympathy to others through loss.
Its more about educating people on what grief is and what gives rise to the emotions so that they can move through it quicker.

Enjoy the journey with me ....I'm looking forward to our chats and hearing what you have to say, and learning all about you so please I love interaction...do post!

Happy Day to you


Lynn