Wow! I had a massive wakeup call towards the end of last
week. Even though I am mindful of appreciating my family, one has to admit that
one does get complacent, especially when a family member is irritating us.
Well, as much as I try to be the perfect loving person, I
know that in reality a truly ‘loving person’ makes all the mistakes that I make.
Life and love is about likes and dislikes, ying and yang,
black and white. So when God then sends a test to us – our true colours come to
life!
My mother who is now in her seventies, fell and hit her head
on a wall and also a concrete floor. The scene looked like something more
sinister had happened and despite my confusion, listening to my Mother’s demand
to get home ‘Now’! And assessing the scene, I knew I had to ensure that she
received the best care.
It was a long night and even though things are not like they
used to be, I was thankful that at least we have a place to go, at least as
some sensible point a Doctor would look at my mother’s injuries.
During the time waiting, for which I am grateful for, I was
able to show my Mother how much I loved and care for her. We were able to share
funny one-liners and also listen and watch the amazing events unfold that are
typical of an Accident and Emergency ward. We noted that being over the age of seventy,
having suffered a head injury and still bleeding with a bump the size of a
satsuma, was in fact not much of an emergency at all – preference made way for
drunks, and even a young ‘Justin Bieber’ lookalike who said he had been bitten
by a ‘wild animal’!
Just for the record, we don’t really have any wild animals
in England, so I am still uncertain how he got a priority over my poor Mother.
That said, I am grateful for the wait, I am grateful for the
time I spent with my amazing Mother. She had suffered concussion and yet was
displaying the most admiral strength and resilience you can imagine.
Then again, I have been allowed to see what many people perhaps
can’t. I have been privileged to experience a great loss. You see my Mother lost
her two babies, many years ago, she endured the cruellest of nature’s wrath and
had to survive the ordeal. Sometimes I just can’t get my head around it – she is
a tough cookie! What was also my loss too, that of my beautiful sisters, I can’t
know what losing two children may feel like, I can only imagine it as a Mother.
I do know what it is like to lose siblings …which was pretty awful.
Anyhow I believe that those losses explain to some degree
how my Mother has toughened up on the outside. For me these are amazing
lessons, I feel honoured to share these times with my Mother. I am blessed to
know such an incredible woman.
I later spent some time with my father and he too was in awe
of the amount of strength and poise my Mother had. She never once moaned or
complained during the eight hours at the hospital, crikey it took about five
hours before anyone looked at her wound or dressed it. That said I am grateful
for the special time I spent caring for my Mother and that is thanks to the NHS
service and the crews who work there.
Yes the whole incident was a wakeup call. Nature’s way of
reminding me that time is running out, am I doing all I can to ensure I show my
love and care for my family and friends?
Have I done enough to thank my Mother for all she has done,
all she has been through?
I don’t want to live with any regrets. I don’t want to be
left here with her passed and not have said all that I need to say to her.
One of the biggest regrets people have on loss, is not ever
having their loved one that they loved them.
So please have a think about it ….imagine your loved one has
passed, think about what you need and want to say to them and then find a time
when you can begin telling them just how much you care.
Can you do that? I would really love to hear your own
stories, please come back and tell me how you got on, and if you feel you can’t
then come and tell me what is stopping you and I can see how I can help you!
I know I am not the most eloquent blogger, I do have a
genuine heart and if I can help you, I will!
Thanks for reading, sending you loving energy and smiling as
I picture you smiling too
I am grateful
God Bless!
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