Photo shopped Grief

Just reflecting on some of my posts and they do seem to be ‘all over the place’

No neat bullet points with a set progression

Nobody ever responds…I wonder why that really is ? Of course those who don’t understand will say something ‘stupid’ and those who do , well…maybe they are too frightened to admit to their feelings? Posting on google is TOO open and when you are in that bottomless pit, it is too scary to talk about it.

It is, or can be a kind of denial, that you are hurting.

Let’s face it grievers( hope you don’t mind me calling you that)……….but most people do not understand, and they will often say the most stupid things to you!

Please please can you share with me some of the craziest things people have said to you?!

For me it was, “I suppose you get everything you want now”

Erm, how do you respond to that? Well actually I wanted my loved ones to live!! You bonehead!

Here’s one that might make you laugh a little. I wasn’t married for long, the dream love of my life, turned out to be a crazy control freak who threatened me to the point I left for my safety.

Do you know ? ……This equates to a traumatic loss, yet the most sympathy I ever got was, ‘you should have left him sooner, you’ll be alright now’

That ! is like saying to a widow, pity he hadn’t died sooner, you would be over grief by now!

Family were the worst! …………..I got ‘What are you crying for ?’………….Der!

I didn’t know the Universal Laws from Dr Demartini back then, I know them now and oh boy…it can make such a big difference in your life. Actually it is more than a big difference it is a quantum difference.

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You can’t Photoshop grief, you can’t make it fit straight lines or just be circles. Greif is a flow of emotion that has to be experienced for what it is!

If my post fluctuate…I’m pretty sure that your loss, has been experiencing similar?

Grief and its vibration level

Grief and its vibration level - Just so you feel better!(Your thoughts not mine - :))

I came into life at the bottom rung - I am now trying to work my way back up! With fun and laughter and an abundance experience and joy, for which I am grateful.

Please don’t ask me why it happened to You – it happened to me  - I was nine! Never knew I asked for it!

It is Friday!

I am so grateful to be here, in my being with the ability to talk to you. I feel the awesomeness of that.

Can you feel it too? Can you feel the awesomeness of being alive?

At times when we go through grief, we can’t always see the awesomeness and sometimes we can find we have learnt a pattern that repeats.

I describe the pattern in my book http://amzn.to/1p8i2Pe  and that pattern can cost you dearly.

In the largest sense it actually costs you the JOY of LIVING because you spend time wishing on something that is actually a fantasy.

What if - scenarios!

What if - they were here?  What if I could speak to them now? I wouldn’t feel like this

I would be happy, I would be happier!

What we don’t see, is that whilst these feelings appear to be validating our loss, they actual give rise to more loss!! The Universe simply reacts to our thoughts.

The message you are giving out is that you want to ponder on ‘woulds’ and ‘coulds’ and in this frame of mind we ARE actually lacking.

We are not in the here and now appreciating the abundance that is part of our nature and inheritance.

Think about it…if you are suffering grief….how many of your family and friends are trying to tell you to ‘Get on with life’!

You know what? They are giving you great advice, YET, if you are anything like me, and I hope you are not!

I think ‘What the hell do you know?

You don’t know this pain of grief’

I wouldn’t wish it on you!

It is painful

It is excruciating!

Don’t you know how grief feels? Don’t you know how it rips your heart out?!

Don’t you know that you want to die from it! That death is preferable than life?

Don’t you know that?

Well if you DO! Then shut the f@ck! Up!

Mmmm…you get the picture…that anger is intense

The thoughts and feeling are vivid and strong

And ….before we had the understanding of Lynn Hope Thomas, we had Elizabeth Kubler Ross and her magnificent support for grief stricken people.

She was great! She gave the World something they never had before, an insight into the stages of grief. I am the first to say that when I read her book, I felt so validated with my grief, it was like drinking honey, I was grateful.

YET, what have we done? We have listened to her stages and believed them! Yes we have believed them and not sought to move from outside the box!

Oh oh ! We have not moved!

Nature wants us to move. We move to stay green and survive, if we stagnate, we die!

I want to see more movement with grief because not every culture suffers from grief – did you know that?

Do you know that it is learnt and a culture? Yes not all people around the world grieve upon death of a loved one? In China they employ a stripper to cheer the family up! Imagine that.

I will talk about that some more another time

For now, “How we think about our loss and grief and what we say with regard to our feelings is so important in what happens next” ….please stay tuned in……….

I am grateful for you listening….and want to bring more Joy to your lives….I want you to be part of my journey because we will have the greatest joy through what we learnt with our loss.

Thank yourself for your loss –“ I am thankful for my loss, I am thankful that I gave away my greatest love to discover my greatest love, there is nothing more powerful than that!”

God Bless You

God Bless those who give their lives

God Bless those who love those who give their lives

Please join me for my next blog..

I love you and want the best for you!

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