Supporting people to get through the emotions of grief arising from loss of any kind.Death of loved one,job loss,financial loss,relationship loss,pet loss.
Saturday 21 March 2015
Sunday 15 March 2015
Mother’s Day – Family Sound of Music
Nothing can ever destroy the connection between the
spiritual and the physical
Whether you are a Mother who has lost a child or a child who
has lost a Mother, whether you are Father who has lost the mother of his
children or a Grandfather who has lost his wife, whether you have lost a
friend, a sister…a dear loved one, know that the loving nature of all beings
continues.
Death cannot destroy that.
Whatever your circumstance…..today is a celebration of the
most amazing relationship ever!
You have been fortunate to experience the greatest power of
the whole Universe, that of creation!
You were given the joy and pleasure of knowing an amazing
being and now they have parted, you can reflect on what you experienced and
learnt
Celebrate the connection today by maybe spending time in
meditation, or close to nature.
Listen and watch for the signs. When you are present enough
you will see, hear, smell, taste or even feel a hint of your loved one.
Maybe listen to music? Today for me, the moment came when I
discovered an app on my iPhone - enter the date of birth and then you can play
the No1 song at the time of birth.
I listened and shared with my family the music of times gone
by of several family members. It brought us close and we enjoyed it.
Let me know what worked for you ? Please share it
Monday 9 March 2015
Grief helps to define YOU
I love this quote from Oscar Wilde...it really does epitomise the beauty of grief.
Although you may not feel it right now...the loss of a loved one is the most beautiful individual experience. I know many will say and scream out ....'What'!!?
Surely making love is the most beautiful experience ?
Well life is about Ying and Yang
And some times you get to experience 'making love' and in other moments you experience loss
Each experience is beautiful
Both follow the laws of the universe
One is about creation and the Law of the 'one to many'
The other is about destruction and the opposing force of 'Many to one'
Grief brings the many back to one - and oh boy don't you feel it!
Grief is a kind of addiction, an addiction to those traits in your loved one that are now gone!
Like an addict you suffer the withdrawal symptoms failing to see the beauty of how your loved one is giving you the opportunity to experience Yourself, without the addiction.
You have been given a great opportunity in life ! It may not feel like it...you may need to take baby steps, you may need support.
Once you have experienced the depths of nature, you are on route to experience the heights
I think Oscar Wilde knew............
Sunday 8 March 2015
Approaching a Mother's day loss - New hope
As we approach
Mother's Day, there are Mother's out there who have lost sons and daughters and
there are children who have lost Mothers, or even a close loved one who was
like a Mother.
My thoughts are for
those in need of comfort and support. Why ? Well…let's say it's my job to watch
out for you. The people I care for , are the ones who need some guidance and
love.
First off, whatever
your situation is, whoever you are, there are many in similar circumstances
where others share what you experience and many who want to talk and feel safe,
knowing that their feelings and comments are respected. Please feel free to post
comments and connect
I work in a
corporate business environment and maybe it's just me, I don't feel I could
talk to colleagues about circumstances or situations that are not work related.
I struggle to find
true sentiment and comfort in the corporate world, especially the area I work
in, which is IT related.
That said …..I am
grateful for it because it as it then allows me to think more deeply about your
possible needs and think of ways to connect with you. Who knows you may find
that we share the same difficulties …….
As we approach
Mother's day, for some it will be an opportunity to revisit grief in some
aspect. Some may dread the day approaching…as it stirs up emotion around your
loss.
Loss is the most
powerful emotion ever, yet it is different for each person. ….and don't you
just love hearing that said to you, when you are feeling blue and some smart
'Alec', who has never experienced 'loss' says it!?
Even worse is
someone who has experienced loss, and they say that! Then you think , why do I feel this bad?
We always tell
ourselves it's because of the depth of our love. We loved them SO much.
……..
Our loss is
great….and I know this….I do ….I really know the pit of loss.
So forgive me when I
say :-
I WANT you to think
about this :
Listen to Mother Theresa's words,
and think how much she would try for YOU to bring light ?
Nothing
is ever missing
We
are spiritual beings having a physical experience
Energy
cannot be destroyed
All
communication is a vibration
When a loved one
dies, the energy is released into the universe and joins all non-physical
energy. No matter how sad we feel about this, for the one who has passed it is
an amazing feeling of love and joy. Absolutely no reason to feel sad for them.
And guess what ? If you are willing and not totally absorbed in your
grief….which by the way….. is a cultural, religious and community based
expectation (Some cultures see death as part of the cycle of life, for example
the Hindu religion )…if you are willing to keep your heart open, you can come
to realise that your loved one may no longer be in physical form but you can
still be in communication with them, and you can see traits of your loved
appear around you, in the form of things people say, or do, aspects of peoples
character, the way someone talks to you, a smile, the look in their eyes, a
joke said, a gift given, words carefully spoken, messages that others would not
notice.
I understand grief,
it is something as a child I threw to the side, I picked myself up and kicked
it in the butt, so to speak….well that was until it came back to me again and
again! That was when I began to learn some very useful lessons.
When I woke up to
the lessons, I began to write about them in a book called 'Breaking Through
loss'. The book is available on Amazon and it is in a kindle format reasonably
priced.
It is worth reading
, I give you decades of experience on grief to recommend the best solution on
Earth.
If you want to
connect this Mother's Day, then it is worth making the start now …believe me it
WILL be so worth your while.
Offering you
a branch of Hope
Whatever you
circumstance, if you need to talk …I'm here
Love and blessing to
you
Lynn Hope Thomas
xx
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