Keep the love alive!

Mother’s Day – Family Sound of Music

Nothing can ever destroy the connection between the spiritual and the physical

Whether you are a Mother who has lost a child or a child who has lost a Mother, whether you are Father who has lost the mother of his children or a Grandfather who has lost his wife, whether you have lost a friend, a sister…a dear loved one, know that the loving nature of all beings continues.

Death cannot destroy that.

Whatever your circumstance…..today is a celebration of the most amazing relationship ever!

You have been fortunate to experience the greatest power of the whole Universe, that of creation!

You were given the joy and pleasure of knowing an amazing being and now they have parted, you can reflect on what you experienced and learnt

Celebrate the connection today by maybe spending time in meditation, or close to nature.

Listen and watch for the signs. When you are present enough you will see, hear, smell, taste or even feel a hint of your loved one.

Maybe listen to music? Today for me, the moment came when I discovered an app on my iPhone - enter the date of birth and then you can play the No1 song at the time of birth.

I listened and shared with my family the music of times gone by of several family members. It brought us close and we enjoyed it.

Let me know what worked for you ? Please share it

Grief helps to define YOU

I love this quote from Oscar Wilde...it really does epitomise the beauty of grief.

Although you may not feel it right now...the loss of a loved one is the most beautiful individual experience. I know many will say and scream out ....'What'!!?

Surely making love is the most beautiful experience ?

Well life is about Ying and Yang

And some times you get to experience 'making love' and in other moments you experience loss

Each experience is beautiful

Both follow the laws of the universe

One is about creation and the Law of the 'one to many'

The other is about destruction and the opposing force of 'Many to one'

Grief brings the many back to one - and oh boy don't you feel it!

Grief is a kind of  addiction, an addiction to those traits in your loved one that are now gone!

Like an addict you suffer the withdrawal symptoms failing to see the beauty of how your loved one is giving you the opportunity to experience Yourself, without the addiction.

You have been given a great opportunity in life ! It may not feel like it...you may need to take baby steps, you may need support.

Once you have experienced the depths of nature, you are on route to experience the heights

I think Oscar Wilde knew............

Approaching a Mother's day loss - New hope

As we approach Mother's Day, there are Mother's out there who have lost sons and daughters and there are children who have lost Mothers, or even a close loved one who was like a Mother.

My thoughts are for those in need of comfort and support. Why ? Well…let's say it's my job to watch out for you. The people I care for , are the ones who need some guidance and love.

First off, whatever your situation is, whoever you are, there are many in similar circumstances where others share what you experience and many who want to talk and feel safe, knowing that their feelings and comments are respected. Please feel free to post comments and connect

I work in a corporate business environment and maybe it's just me, I don't feel I could talk to colleagues about circumstances or situations that are not work related.

I struggle to find true sentiment and comfort in the corporate world, especially the area I work in, which is IT related.

That said …..I am grateful for it because it as it then allows me to think more deeply about your possible needs and think of ways to connect with you. Who knows you may find that we share the same difficulties …….

As we approach Mother's day, for some it will be an opportunity to revisit grief in some aspect. Some may dread the day approaching…as it stirs up emotion around your loss.

Loss is the most powerful emotion ever, yet it is different for each person. ….and don't you just love hearing that said to you, when you are feeling blue and some smart 'Alec', who has never experienced 'loss' says it!?

Even worse is someone who has experienced loss, and they say that! Then you think , why do I feel this bad?

We always tell ourselves it's because of the depth of our love. We loved them SO much.

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Our loss is great….and I know this….I do ….I really know the pit of loss.

So forgive me when I say :-

I WANT you to think about this :

Listen to Mother Theresa's words, and think how much she would try for YOU to bring light ?

Nothing is ever missing

We are spiritual beings having a physical experience

Energy cannot be destroyed

All communication is a vibration

When a loved one dies, the energy is released into the universe and joins all non-physical energy. No matter how sad we feel about this, for the one who has passed it is an amazing feeling of love and joy. Absolutely no reason to feel sad for them. And guess what ? If you are willing and not totally absorbed in your grief….which by the way….. is a cultural, religious and community based expectation (Some cultures see death as part of the cycle of life, for example the Hindu religion )…if you are willing to keep your heart open, you can come to realise that your loved one may no longer be in physical form but you can still be in communication with them, and you can see traits of your loved appear around you, in the form of things people say, or do, aspects of peoples character, the way someone talks to you, a smile, the look in their eyes, a joke said, a gift given, words carefully spoken, messages that others would not notice.

I understand grief, it is something as a child I threw to the side, I picked myself up and kicked it in the butt, so to speak….well that was until it came back to me again and again! That was when I began to learn some very useful lessons.

When I woke up to the lessons, I began to write about them in a book called 'Breaking Through loss'. The book is available on Amazon and it is in a kindle format reasonably priced.

It is worth reading , I give you decades of experience on grief to recommend the best solution on Earth.

http://tinyurl.com/ok5emwy

If you want to connect this Mother's Day, then it is worth making the start now …believe me it WILL be so worth your while.

Offering you a branch of Hope

Whatever you circumstance, if you need to talk …I'm here

Love and blessing to you

Lynn Hope Thomas

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