Grief to Relief: Winter Seasons of Grief

Winter in UK is a different season in Australia, however wherever you live you will have seasons of the year.

The seasons are there to remind us of the cycle of life :

Winter Hibernation

Spring Renewal

Summer Blooms

Autumn Shedding

I am just wondering about the order of the seasons…not that I can argue with nature!

Looking at grief it does seems to follow the seasonal pattern :

Winter	We hide away like winter, our emotions frozen and under cover. We limit our social activities and hide away from people as we assess our wounds and try re-evaluate our lives.
Spring	We eventually figure out that hibernation is one step from being dormant and we begin to open out a few shoots testing the way forward….a new way forward and finally venturing into the world.
Summer	We begin to find our feet again and as Summer comes we begin to blossom with a new awareness and a realisation that life can still have purpose and feel good.
Autumn	As Autumn comes we can decide to shed old grief patterns. Letting go can mean throwing out old memories, clearing out aspects of our loved ones like old clothes, toys, things they used.

Yet still we want to keep hold of treasured items that generate the sweetest of memories of our loved ones.

What are those things for you ?

For me, it was the 'London Souvenir' a water dome that when shaken dropped snow over London Tower Bridge.

The significance to me, was that when my sisters were away from me on that school trip, they had thought about me, they had shown me love.

Based on that learning, it brings a warmth to know that during this long road of absence since their death, I know they are thinking of me.

I welcome you to ponder on this and find for yourselves that connection with your loved one.

As Dr J Demartini says 'Nothing is ever missing' and through his method I found this to be true http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000609358/Breaking-Through-Loss.aspx

God Bless you all

Lynn

Grief to Relief